11 Signs You're A Girl Who'll Never Give Up When It Counts (by Neena M.T.)

Have you ever wondered if you have what it takes to make it – to stay strong at a moment of crisis and not let the pessimism get to you? Here are some signs to know if you are the kind of girl who can count on herself to never say never.

1. You laugh when you fall.

That moment where you look like a fool in public and are supposed to feel utter humiliation – but you are the one laughing the loudest at yourself. That ability not to take yourself so seriously is a skill that is not given enough credit.

2. You compete against yourself.

Petty politics and rivalries do not interest you. What keeps you going is being able to tell yourself that you have put in the best of your efforts. You believe in analyzing your performance yourself and aiming to better your best.

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3. You believe in the school of no regrets.

To know your own capabilities, you need to have tried your maximum. And the choices you have made throughout your life – whether they led to good or bad results – you don’t regret a single one. Because true winners know that there is something to learn from everything.

4. You are ready for change.

Yes, you make a lot of plans. But you respect how circumstances evolve and change. So you leave enough room for flexibility and that means, at any given point, you are ready to reassess your plans without missing a beat.

5. “No half-assing” is your motto.

When you take on something – whether it is planning a holiday or cooking a family meal or acing that monthly target, you don’t believe in half-hearted attempts. It’s all in or stop playing.

6. You know your priorities.

Whether it’s personal or professional, you have your priorities set in your mind – and when push comes to shove, you have the discipline to focus on what’s most important.

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7. You don’t accept someone else’s word for things being impossible.

If someone tells you something cannot be done, you don’t just blindly accept it. You go out of your way to take on the challenge – and sometimes your perseverance means the impossible actually becomes possible.

8. You take your responsibilities seriously.

Whether it is spending 15 minutes mentoring a junior colleague, helping your boss prepare her presentation or going for a movie date with your friends, you try to keep your own word.

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9. You are up for an adventure on the road or a quiet night indoors…

…and have equal fun doing both. That’s because you are comfortable in your own skin and believe in making the most of any situation.

10. Being brave does not mean you are not shit scared.

Not giving up requires a lot of courage – and you are smart enough to know that being courageous doesn’t mean not being afraid. Rather, it means being scared as hell, gritting your teeth and doing what you are supposed to do.

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11. You know when to vent and when to pick yourself up.

Not giving up means there will be several stumbling blocks and lots of failures to brush aside. And as a normal albeit committed and strong human being, there are times when you want to scream with rage and frustration. So you give yourself time to vent and possibly have some ice cream or chocolate, and then you pick yourself off from the floor and start afresh.

And that’s when you know you can count on yourself to never give up when it counts…

Reference: https://www.popxo.com/article/signs-that-you-are-a-girl-who-will-never-give-up/

Gratitude is the BEST Attitude

In life we spend most of our time simply being ungrateful! Yes, WML said it…thankless and unappreciative. Why is that, when we have been blessed with so much. Well, it’s birthed by most of us never being taught or modeled the true definition of gratefulness. We are just told we should be grateful or appreciate what we got, but it is more than just that. It’s a mentality and a constant action word that our parents may have never seen as children which hindered their ability to accurately teach us this characteristic that we so desperately need in life.

Then, we grow up and start comparing our world to the world of others. It is natural habit, however, with social media at our disposal it gets taken too far. We start to diminish what we have and start to desire the lives of others but fail to recognize how they got it or at what expense does it take to maintain what we see. This results in us being negative, bitter and critical of everything making it close impossible to be grateful or find contentment in our own realities.

Research has shown that when we tap into gratitude it can work in our favor. According to an article in psychology today entitled “7 Scientifically Proven Benefits of Gratitude”, it lays out the following positive outcomes of being grateful. 1) Gratitude opens the door for more relationships. 2) Gratitude improves physical health. 3) Gratitude improves psychological health. 4) Gratitude enhances empathy and reduces aggression. 5) Grateful people sleep better. 6) Gratitude improves self esteem. 7) Gratitude increases mental strength. It is obvious that exhibiting gratitude can be more powerful than we give it credit

So, how can you apply gratitude more in your life? It can begin with acknowledging the gift of breath in your body because being alive is a privilege that gives each of us the opportunity to live out our hearts desires. Look around and take inventory of what you actually have (large or small) as you probably have more than you are without. Lastly, take a moment to think about where you came from and appreciate how far you have come and where you are going…your progress and unique journey is worth the appreciation.

Reference: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201504/7-scientifically-proven-benefits-gratitude

Sheros Need Support Too!

Every woman strives to obtain balance, but a key component that needs to be in place in order to achieve the best juggling act is our support systems. Yes, that is right…sheros need support too! Support systems are the people that we have identified as safe and reliable folks that can operate as an extension of ourselves when we are faced with multiple tasks. Our support systems can be crucial to our daily living as they help to bring a sense of relief to our chaotic schedules and enables us to be truly productive without being stretched so thin.

Why struggle trying to be the end all be all or worry about others judgment when you reach out for a hand! It is totally okay to call in the tribe, the village, the back up or whatever name you call them. Most times they don’t mind and would be glad too assist as it gives purpose to your relationship with them. Let them help with school pick ups, dropping kids off at practice or manage whatever task you have delegated for them to handle.

Now, you may say I don’t have anyone that can support me in those ways. Well, think again…pull out your phone and really look at your contacts as you have more help than you realize or have tapped into. Consider getting potential assistance from not just family or friends…hit up one of the other soccer parents, or dance moms or neighbors. Your support team will look different from other people and that’s fine….it’s personalized which makes it even better!

Please understand clearly that the establishment of support is essential because it decreases the amount of unnecessary stress that we often create by trying to get everything done alone. You are not going to be rewarded any more or seen even greater by being burnt out. We are here to encourage you to give yourself a break sometimes and understand that you don’t have to do everything yourself. The fantasy of being “super-mom” or “super woman” promotes a false sense of what really encapsulates a strong woman. We’re all strong in our own right and we’re even stronger when we know how to let people in and help.